Really needs some advice :(

G-rah. You're such a mom...

Gotta wonder how many of the posters are only children here... When I was growing up, the last thing you ever did was sell out your siblings, cousins, whatever...
 
Inka4040 said:
G-rah. You're such a mom...

Gotta wonder how many of the posters are only children here... When I was growing up, the last thing you ever did was sell out your siblings, cousins, whatever...
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And have parents a bit less involved when children become adults. Gotta become independent eventually.
 
Inka4040 said:
G-rah. You're such a mom...

Gotta wonder how many of the posters are only children here... When I was growing up, the last thing you ever did was sell out your siblings, cousins, whatever...
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LOL, yes I am :D

I know what you are saying there Inka same thing here. But he has put her in quite the spot here, I don't think she deserves to take the punishment for what he did. I also agree there is a bit of over reaction by some here, not sure the kid is on the road to damnation but she is trying to gain/keep the trust of her Dad, would be best if the brother would just own up to it at take what is coming...knowing what it would cause for her, he was wrong for doing it.
 
Oh yeah, totally. I hear what you're saying G, but imo, the most I would do is talk to him about it, and leave it in his court. I wouldn't ever sell out my bro, least of all to save my own skin, actual blameworthiness aside.
 
Inka4040 said:
Am I the only one here who thinks there may be a whole slew of overreaction going around? A 19 year old who can still get by on 2 airplane bottles of any liquor is far from someone who has a problem. Heck, I'd go so far as to say that most 19yo kids have had far more experience under their belt than that. If you want to tell your dad, do it knowing that you're doing it to save your own skin. This talk of saving your brother from walking down the wrong path sounds like a lot of moral posturing and overly melodramatic judgment to me. I was a hellion in high school, but by the time I got to college, most of it was out of my system, and I continue to have a healthy and balanced relationship with intoxicating substances (if you don't believe this is possible, that's another thread entirely). Some of my friends on the other hand, came from entirely sheltered backgrounds, and crashed and burned pretty hard with all their new freedom. People learn best from their own mistakes. Let your bro figure it out for himself. Pleeeeeze, 2 airplane bottles is a far cry from a drinking problem.

I for one, have to agree with the others who suggested you speak to your brother before going to your dad. Giving him the chance to fess up himself absolves you of possibly having to rat him out, and lets him make his own decisions. Talk it out with him, don't go behind his back and snitch. I for one, would never have sold out my brother unless it was absolutely necessary for his health and safety. 2 airplane bottles sounds more like a sheltered but curious kid than someone on a full on bender of self destruction.
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Maybe you missed the part about stealing $800 from the folks? Doesn't sound like a kid just sneaking a wine cooler from the fridge to share with his pals in the park.

Then there's the issue with stealing the bottles from his sister...

Stealing from anyone is wrong, but stealing from your own family? There's a bigger issue than some irresponsible kid who just likes to party a little bit.
 
Inka4040 said:
Am I the only one here who thinks there may be a whole slew of overreaction going around? A 19 year old who can still get by on 2 airplane bottles of any liquor is far from someone who has a problem. Heck, I'd go so far as to say that most 19yo kids have had far more experience under their belt than that. If you want to tell your dad, do it knowing that you're doing it to save your own skin. This talk of saving your brother from walking down the wrong path sounds like a lot of moral posturing and overly melodramatic judgment to me. I was a hellion in high school, but by the time I got to college, most of it was out of my system, and I continue to have a healthy and balanced relationship with intoxicating substances (if you don't believe this is possible, that's another thread entirely). Some of my friends on the other hand, came from entirely sheltered backgrounds, and crashed and burned pretty hard with all their new freedom. People learn best from their own mistakes. Let your bro figure it out for himself. Pleeeeeze, 2 airplane bottles is a far cry from a drinking problem.

I for one, have to agree with the others who suggested you speak to your brother before going to your dad. Giving him the chance to fess up himself absolves you of possibly having to rat him out, and lets him make his own decisions. Talk it out with him, don't go behind his back and snitch. I for one, would never have sold out my brother unless it was absolutely necessary for his health and safety. 2 airplane bottles sounds more like a sheltered but curious kid than someone on a full on bender of self destruction.
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Amen!
 
Madcrawdad said:
Maybe you missed the part about stealing $800 from the folks? Doesn't sound like a kid just sneaking a wine cooler from the fridge to share with his pals in the park.

Then there's the issue with stealing the bottles from his sister...

Stealing from anyone is wrong, but stealing from your own family? There's a bigger issue than some irresponsible kid who just likes to party a little bit.
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Yeah, actually I did miss that part... I drank about 16 grand worth of liquor out of my parents showcase when they left for Thailand one summer. There is still a stain on the living room carpet of puked up Louis XIII, ah the stupidity of youth... Thankfully they didn't slaughter me when they found out, but people do make mistakes. 800 bucks is quite a different thing than 2 airplane bottles, but at the end of the day, if op gonna tell, she has to acknowledge that she's doing it for her own sake, and not for some feigned altruism.
 
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