i did quite a bit of more searching today on discus living alone, it seems that i have figured something that anybody could figure out after comparing quite a few articles
so........................
IF DISCUS IS ALONE WITHOUT TANKMATES THAT SWIM IN THE SAME REGION, it will stress A LOT, and can result in sickness or even death like cam said
BUT
IF DISCUS IS ALONE WITH TANKMATES THAT SWIM IN THE SAME REGION, it won't stress that much, if any, it seems to be true FOR NOW in my tank. I hope it stays this way or else i'll have to do something about it being if we're in new house, get a 55G BB tank for discus only and buy like 3 more babies from my LFS, OR i would have to sell it.....most likely selling it bc i doubt we'll have a new house by xmas