anyone wanna take in a fishnerd so hes out of his current living condition?

livebearerfreak said:
just got an email back from the appt manager

Doug,
I have only 2 bedrooms open in Augusta right now at this time. I need to know how much you get from SSI to finish processing your application. As far as a co-signer goes depending on your credit and your rent to income will depend if you need a co-signer or not. As far as the fish tanks go I will have to ask my boss if you are allowed to have them you will only be allowed to have one. I also need personal references and credit references dnt have that so am i screwed? to complete your application.
Thank you,
Mandy
Property Manager

so am i most likly to get it?
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Call and ask questions. I'm assuming you don't have much of a credit history so let them know that and if there is anything else you could do to guarantee you will pay your rent. If you can't take your tanks you can't take your tanks...simple as that. That should give you motivation to work harder to afford a house so you can have as many tanks as you **** well please.
 
livebearerfreak said:
just got an email back from the appt manager

Doug,
I have only 2 bedrooms open in Augusta right now at this time. I need to know how much you get from SSI to finish processing your application. As far as a co-signer goes depending on your credit and your rent to income will depend if you need a co-signer or not. As far as the fish tanks go I will have to ask my boss if you are allowed to have them you will only be allowed to have one. I also need personal references and credit references dnt have that so am i screwed? to complete your application.
Thank you,
Mandy
Property Manager

so am i most likly to get it?
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In regards to your credit reference; I think your best bet is finding someone to co-sign for you. Ask your dad, uncle, mom's ex-boyfriend - whoever you feel will support you in someway or the other. If you really want this, YOU have to make it happen. Beg, plead, whine (?) - do whatever it takes to get someone to be a co-signer for you and please, don't take advantage of their trust in you and make sure you live your life right. Prove to them that you can be a honest, responsible, and hardworking person.
 
I would guess that would depend on whether or not you are able to provide the credit references. Do you have a bank account in your own name? A credit card? It might be unlikely for you to get the apartment if you have neither a credit rating or co-signers. Most apartment complexes want you to have at least two months of rent in the bank before they will rent to you. I wish you the best of luck, though.

If it doesn't work out, perhaps you could try to get a part time job that would earn a little bit of pocket money, provide you with some professional references and get you out of the house a little more. Even a step in the right direction would have to make things better than they seem to be now. I don't know about where you are, but here, there are several social services organizations that will help people with disabilities find part time work or provide vocational training.
 
Stargazer53 said:
Folks - I think we should abstain from criticizing the fellow so harshly. For those of you who actually read through all 20 pages (I have), you will read that this young fellow is dealing with a lot mentally and emotionally. The reasons as to why, we can only partially assume based upon his side of the story. However, with that said, he did say that fish keeping/having tanks was his main form of therapy to maintain his sanity.

The fellow's grandmother is not okay with him using a heater for his aquarium (he has said that he is using the heater secretly) and he is frequently banned from using his computer and internet, even despite the fact that he says he pays half the internet costs.

Basically, I'm not trying to defend the boy. But I also don't think we should bash, criticize-rebuke, and provide pessimistic feedback to someone who clearly is going through a lot of turmoil internally. As to the validity of his elaborate and unfortunate living conditions, as I said, we can only assume as much as we know. Wish him well, pray for him, send him positive energy, and try to be helpful with any advice.

Lastly, in regards to our tax dollars paying for his habits and lifestyle - Let me be quite frank; I'm not married yet and pay a whole lot of taxes. A lot of the tax dollars that are deducted from my paycheck are used for things I don't utilize nor agree with - I don't go to the public library, yet my taxes help pay for the library to be open. I would prefer our country not to be in war and would rather like our brave men and women home with their families then on foreign soil, fighting for democracy that might not be appreciated by foreign civilians. Yet at the end of the day, I understand and am at peace with the fact that most of our tax dollars are used for programs and causes that are of no use or not agreeable with myself as a individual. It's life and it's fact and even then, I'm still darn proud to be American. Basically, let's not gang up on this boy just because he smokes cigarettes on our tab. Sorry for the tirade. :)
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:thumbsup: Well said!! I agree 100%.
 
To all the people complaining about smoking/education issues/job issues.
Coming from a bad / dysfunctional situation means you need to take it one step at a time. It may mean not working during times you solve other issues. Or working less while you further your education/training. It might mean taking breaks when necessary. What's important is that one keeps on making progress.

At times I've felt so drained from fighting with my family and dealing with their control issues that I would basically end up zombie-like. Sleepless nights, being unable to cope ,stress from my family contributing to my health issues etc etc. AND my family is probably not as stressful as LBF's family...

I put a lot of energy/time into coping/ de-stressing from a situation that I have hated. It's better now, but I've had a lot of "hell" too. I guess you have to experience it to know /understand how this feels like. I think there's been many good responses, however a few of you lack empathy.

It does make it harder to work to get out if you come from a disadvanged background. Yes it's ironic, but that's how it is.
These aspects do not lend themselves to getting a job because employers will increase rejection. It's ironic that employers will reject the very people who need jobs the most. Employers will reject people with problems more because they don't want someone with problems when our world over population means they can always pick someone else.....( sarcastic here)
Glad people keep popping out babies so we can have a steady rat race going for resources/jobs.

I also know full well the difficulties related to not using ones' father's surname and using a surname from maternal family. The latest is I have been threatened with a $100 fine for using a surname from my maternal family. I've been using this name most of my life and I get threatened on a regular basis.
 
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It's too bad most folks love that crutch of stating they are from a dysfunctional family..stop the whining and work. Guess it is necessary to blame it on someone or something vice just going and doing something about it.
 
Every family is dysfunctional on some level. It is impossible to ideally meet the needs of every child at every point in their lives. Each person is on their own path and learning how to cope and progress in this world isn't something that you ever master....it's an ongoing task. So, when you become a parent, you have to continue working on your own life path as well as assuring the best life possible for your child/ren. Everyone has failures along this path.

As my husband says, "there might be reasons for things but they are never excuses". Once you are an adult, you have the power to make your own decisions. Figuring out HOW to exercise that power takes some work and if you come from a messed up family, you're a bit handicapped at it but you CAN figure it out if you are determined.

Dysfunctional is just a psychobabble term for the life we all have. Get on and get up!
 
Rbishop said:
It's too bad most folks love that crutch of stating they are from a dysfunctional family..stop the whining and work. Guess it is necessary to blame it on someone or something vice just going and doing something about it.
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this.. Perhaps joining the military might be of some help..structure, discipline, etc..
 
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