dude i only read up to where your listed your conditions to want to move out.
Just shower.. please for my sake shower. im so against unreasonable rules i find it digusting someone related to you wont even give you the decency to shower and clean your own body once a day, if she wants to smell like urine thats her thing but no one should be denied a shower. take one while shes not home or i dk shower at your friends house or something. i had a friend who wanted to move out so bad and finally he just did. if you have a decent job that can pay rent and get you food and clothes do that.. even if it means putting your tanks on hold, its much better then living like a slave. fish will always be there, your health and social life will go down more and more without showers and with people controlling you.
Are you sure it's bed bugs? Did you actually catch a bug and compare it to photos online? If so, that's going to be a problem when you move out as well.