lmao yes i agree, i feel bad for this kid though his living conditions are **** near deplorable
anyone wanna take in a fishnerd so hes out of his current living condition?
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lmao yes i agree, i feel bad for this kid though his living conditions are **** near deplorable
I wont disagree, but I'll refrain from agreeing.
The internet is not going to help him.
I've seen his posts for a couple of years. He needs professional help instead on keyboard warriors who are unknowingly acting as enablers.
Either that or a role model (which really isn't available online).
This **** is like a train wreck. I don't want to look but I can't help it.
Obviously this kid isn't reading any of the advice posted on here...
GROW UP, be a man, and stop asking for hand-outs from everyone.
GROW UP, be a man, and stop asking for hand-outs from everyone.
I love all the ranting over buying cigarettes while on SSI/SSD. Clearly narrow-minded thinking is evident in some of these posts as they do not address the Original Post.
At no time did I read in any post about wanting a handout, I must have missed that one.
Because a person does not conform to your idea of what disabled means does not mean they are not. It isn't about who gets what or why, it's simply request to help find suitable living arrangements and his reasoning for it.
The name calling/denigrating remarks need to stop.
At no time did I read in any post about wanting a handout, I must have missed that one.
Because a person does not conform to your idea of what disabled means does not mean they are not. It isn't about who gets what or why, it's simply request to help find suitable living arrangements and his reasoning for it.
The name calling/denigrating remarks need to stop.
if the above is true I can see why you are wanting to get out. hope ya find a place and soon, I will read the thread in completion now
ok livebearerfreak
I have some advice for ya.
I have been in business for the past 13 years, I have been in the food industry for the past 30 or so ,ending up becoming a chef du cusine'. Though in my 43 years of life I have done many many many things.
I am not trying to toot my own horn here, rather I am trying to give you a positive outlook on how life may try to keep you down but it will lose the fight if you hit back right.
Growing up, we lived in a slum trailer court where my mom did everything she could to provide for us. I remember winter where the pipes had froze and the furnace gone out. When we got up we would sit in front of the open oven of our little stove as a way to get warm before we went to school. My mothers 2 marriages ended in divorce because both my real father and step father were exceptionally violent drunks. My dad dragged my mom down the street by her hair when she was six months preggers with me. At this point she escaped and spent the next 3 months in hospital to make sure I arrived alive, and I spent the first 3 months of my life in hospital fighting to stay alive.
Her second marriage ended when the dude took to whipping us with extension cords as a way of discipline.
Life really and truly sucks when people act with total unabashed selfishness and carelessness for others. This being said, there is a light in the tunnel, not at the end but in the tunnel.
What I want to encourage you with is this. Head out and look for work within the food industry. I am totally sure you will find work. Here is how I started.
My older sister was working as a waitress at a casual diner called buddy's, I would always go in on the weekends to sit and watch her work. I would sit at the staff table and they would feed me free frenchfries. At this time I was 10 years old, and they made a joke about making me wash dishes for my fries. I really thought they were serious, so when I was done my fries I walked into the kitchen and tried to wash dishes. The dishwasher who was working showed me how to load the rack and put it on the conveyor belt. I was loving it, until I decided to put liquid dish soap into the machine. This dish washing machine was a continuous feed machine that would replenish it's water constantly so it made a insane amount of bubbles from the 1/4 bottle of soap I poured in.
Now I am sharing this to put something down for ya. I grew up living with my grandma and grandpa, aunts and uncles as my mom went to university to get off of welfare and get her teachers degree. I wish you had family that was like mine, yet, here is what I am trying to say.
There is work out there. I took my first experience at 10 years old and used it as a spring board to get my first real job when I was 12 at the very same restaurant, this time I promised no liquid soap in the machine. From there I have worked at a variety of restaurants from 5 star to greasy spoon, with chef cord bleu to killer dishwashers and prep cooks.
In between restaurant jobs, I have worked with italian bricklayers, chezlovak carpenter, french roofers, etc...... . I have always done my best to keep my hands busy at something, always learning every day. Trying my best to learn from everyone I work with, now for the past 12 years I have tried to learn from the people who work for me as my employees( yet in reality I work with them and they with me)
There are people who looked down on me for most of my life because I am different strange whatever, but I know this I am none of what they say I am because they judge appearances.(when I say people think im strange its for good reason to them or so they think, check out this thread where I have decided that I would take the step to reveal a bit on the personal side of who chefjamesscott is
http://www.aquariacentral.com/forums/showthread.php?t=214132 )
I want to encourage you that no matter what people say about you, you do not need to accept it, you do not need to become it. YOU CAN RISE ABOVE IT.
Let the adversity you are facing right now become the vehicle that will give you diversity of character. Do not become bitter but become better.
Now back to the work thing. I can assure you that if you were to go to the restaurants around you and tell them you want to work, that you want to make something of yourself you will find a job. Some of the best employees I have ever had have been people who came to me without a qualified background to do the job. They simply wanted to be given the chance and when they were given the chance boy did they excell.
I am sure that you will find a restaurant owner/ chef who will take a chance on you. All you have to do is be there, give it your all and do the job, and watch where you go from there.
One of the biggest risk takers I ever met was a chef cord bleu from switzerland named David Dustin who hired me despite the fact that I had just left a roofing job and had only short order experience at this time. He asked me why I had left the roofing job and I told him for $7 / hour I was not going to be walking on A frame cedar shake roofed houses doing tear off in the early morning british comlumbia mornings, I would rather shovel manure (which I have done cleaning race track stables)
David smiled and said ok, I will give you a shot and I did my best to learn and do it like they showed me. I showed up 1/2 hr early so I could possibly start early or at least eat before my shift and then I busted my can.
I assure you lbf that you will find a job within the hospitality industry if you take this approach. You may not stay in the industry but you will find that it is a worthy bridge to get you where you are going and you will never be out of work as people will always go out to eat no matter what the economy is like. During the depression my family ran a small town restaurant that did not go out of business as people will always have a dime for a cup of coffee as it were.
One other huge benefit is that you will not have to worry about the cost of food if you end up working in a kitchen as meals are either greatly discounted or free for kitchen staff.
If you were here in saskatchewan I would have a job waiting for you come jan 4 when we reopen for the winter semester.
I hope some of what I have shared helps to cheer you up and give you some direction.
And to the people who are on his case about cigarettes, I ask.
ARE YOU HIS LAWYER, IF NO- GET OFF HIS CASE !!!!!! lololololololololl
Though cigarettes are a very bad habit, just look at one and tell it that it does not control you and do your best to quit, because after all people don't smoke the cigarette does PEOPLE ARE JUST THE SUCKERS HAHAHAHHAHAHAH.
21 years free from 2 packs a day to cold turkey
I have some advice for ya.
I have been in business for the past 13 years, I have been in the food industry for the past 30 or so ,ending up becoming a chef du cusine'. Though in my 43 years of life I have done many many many things.
I am not trying to toot my own horn here, rather I am trying to give you a positive outlook on how life may try to keep you down but it will lose the fight if you hit back right.
Growing up, we lived in a slum trailer court where my mom did everything she could to provide for us. I remember winter where the pipes had froze and the furnace gone out. When we got up we would sit in front of the open oven of our little stove as a way to get warm before we went to school. My mothers 2 marriages ended in divorce because both my real father and step father were exceptionally violent drunks. My dad dragged my mom down the street by her hair when she was six months preggers with me. At this point she escaped and spent the next 3 months in hospital to make sure I arrived alive, and I spent the first 3 months of my life in hospital fighting to stay alive.
Her second marriage ended when the dude took to whipping us with extension cords as a way of discipline.
Life really and truly sucks when people act with total unabashed selfishness and carelessness for others. This being said, there is a light in the tunnel, not at the end but in the tunnel.
What I want to encourage you with is this. Head out and look for work within the food industry. I am totally sure you will find work. Here is how I started.
My older sister was working as a waitress at a casual diner called buddy's, I would always go in on the weekends to sit and watch her work. I would sit at the staff table and they would feed me free frenchfries. At this time I was 10 years old, and they made a joke about making me wash dishes for my fries. I really thought they were serious, so when I was done my fries I walked into the kitchen and tried to wash dishes. The dishwasher who was working showed me how to load the rack and put it on the conveyor belt. I was loving it, until I decided to put liquid dish soap into the machine. This dish washing machine was a continuous feed machine that would replenish it's water constantly so it made a insane amount of bubbles from the 1/4 bottle of soap I poured in.
Now I am sharing this to put something down for ya. I grew up living with my grandma and grandpa, aunts and uncles as my mom went to university to get off of welfare and get her teachers degree. I wish you had family that was like mine, yet, here is what I am trying to say.
There is work out there. I took my first experience at 10 years old and used it as a spring board to get my first real job when I was 12 at the very same restaurant, this time I promised no liquid soap in the machine. From there I have worked at a variety of restaurants from 5 star to greasy spoon, with chef cord bleu to killer dishwashers and prep cooks.
In between restaurant jobs, I have worked with italian bricklayers, chezlovak carpenter, french roofers, etc...... . I have always done my best to keep my hands busy at something, always learning every day. Trying my best to learn from everyone I work with, now for the past 12 years I have tried to learn from the people who work for me as my employees( yet in reality I work with them and they with me)
There are people who looked down on me for most of my life because I am different strange whatever, but I know this I am none of what they say I am because they judge appearances.(when I say people think im strange its for good reason to them or so they think, check out this thread where I have decided that I would take the step to reveal a bit on the personal side of who chefjamesscott is
http://www.aquariacentral.com/forums/showthread.php?t=214132 )
I want to encourage you that no matter what people say about you, you do not need to accept it, you do not need to become it. YOU CAN RISE ABOVE IT.
Let the adversity you are facing right now become the vehicle that will give you diversity of character. Do not become bitter but become better.
Now back to the work thing. I can assure you that if you were to go to the restaurants around you and tell them you want to work, that you want to make something of yourself you will find a job. Some of the best employees I have ever had have been people who came to me without a qualified background to do the job. They simply wanted to be given the chance and when they were given the chance boy did they excell.
I am sure that you will find a restaurant owner/ chef who will take a chance on you. All you have to do is be there, give it your all and do the job, and watch where you go from there.
One of the biggest risk takers I ever met was a chef cord bleu from switzerland named David Dustin who hired me despite the fact that I had just left a roofing job and had only short order experience at this time. He asked me why I had left the roofing job and I told him for $7 / hour I was not going to be walking on A frame cedar shake roofed houses doing tear off in the early morning british comlumbia mornings, I would rather shovel manure (which I have done cleaning race track stables)
David smiled and said ok, I will give you a shot and I did my best to learn and do it like they showed me. I showed up 1/2 hr early so I could possibly start early or at least eat before my shift and then I busted my can.
I assure you lbf that you will find a job within the hospitality industry if you take this approach. You may not stay in the industry but you will find that it is a worthy bridge to get you where you are going and you will never be out of work as people will always go out to eat no matter what the economy is like. During the depression my family ran a small town restaurant that did not go out of business as people will always have a dime for a cup of coffee as it were.
One other huge benefit is that you will not have to worry about the cost of food if you end up working in a kitchen as meals are either greatly discounted or free for kitchen staff.
If you were here in saskatchewan I would have a job waiting for you come jan 4 when we reopen for the winter semester.
I hope some of what I have shared helps to cheer you up and give you some direction.
And to the people who are on his case about cigarettes, I ask.
ARE YOU HIS LAWYER, IF NO- GET OFF HIS CASE !!!!!! lololololololololl
Though cigarettes are a very bad habit, just look at one and tell it that it does not control you and do your best to quit, because after all people don't smoke the cigarette does PEOPLE ARE JUST THE SUCKERS HAHAHAHHAHAHAH.
21 years free from 2 packs a day to cold turkey
Are you saying I'm attached to materialistic things? Not sure where you got that from. Not sure whether you were talking to me about abusive families either. But I will say that a grown woman being in an abusive relationship is nowhere near growing up from birth in an abusive and neglectful household. Why? Because you do 99% of your emotional and mental baseline development as a child, and when you are neglected as an infant, not ALLOWED to be held by anyone because you are "bad", and then as you mature you are beat every day and screamed at several times a day and thrown around the house, Plus you throw in genetic predispositions to severe mental illness (ie schizophrenia and psychotic bipolar) with a great-uncle that blew his brains out and other family members that did things too horrible to mention... you don't develop normally. To be honest, I spent 10 months in the state mental hospital. And without meds, I would never have been able to leave. And with meds, it's debateable how functional I am. And yes, I am confident my disability can be overcome. But in the meantime, SSI helps.
Now tell me I'm wrong again.
Well, I certainly don't think it's enabling to offer a bit of kindness and encouragement. Livebearerfreak- if you want independence and a mature lifestyle bad enough, you'll find the gumption to go for it! Heck, better late then never. It'll be pretty tough, no doubt, but I'm rootin' for ya, kiddo.
My late little brother, who passed away 3 years ago at 19, was a bit like you, actually. A late bloomer in some ways. We all despaired all through his high school days because he was pretty irresponsible and immature. He passed through that lazy phase and was just on the brink of manhood before he died. All that potential, gone in a breath- and now we'll never know what he was truly capable of. I think about that every day. But... you're alive, you're young, you're at a crossroad. The moment you truely decided to actively start looking for another place you took the step into real maturity!!! That first step is the hardest, but you did it. Now- start thinking "What ELSE am I capable of?"
We can cheer for you, offer advice, all that- but in the end- it's all you, kid. Start living like a man, remember to give yourself a but of credit when it's due. Oh, and.... it's okay to fail and make mistakes. Don't let anybody tell you differently.
I wish you the best of luck, hopefully to start the New Year as a man.
My late little brother, who passed away 3 years ago at 19, was a bit like you, actually. A late bloomer in some ways. We all despaired all through his high school days because he was pretty irresponsible and immature. He passed through that lazy phase and was just on the brink of manhood before he died. All that potential, gone in a breath- and now we'll never know what he was truly capable of. I think about that every day. But... you're alive, you're young, you're at a crossroad. The moment you truely decided to actively start looking for another place you took the step into real maturity!!! That first step is the hardest, but you did it. Now- start thinking "What ELSE am I capable of?"
We can cheer for you, offer advice, all that- but in the end- it's all you, kid. Start living like a man, remember to give yourself a but of credit when it's due. Oh, and.... it's okay to fail and make mistakes. Don't let anybody tell you differently.
I wish you the best of luck, hopefully to start the New Year as a man.
