anyone wanna take in a fishnerd so hes out of his current living condition?

All I can say is...you're 20 years old...therefore an adult and accountable to yourself and those who love you and who you love, no one else.

Start acting like an adult - get out there (I don't know if that means moving out - up to yourself) and make a life for yourself...you're going to wake up one day and find out you're 30...and 40...and so on...as long as you make excuses for your situation, if you find it undesirable, it isn't going to change.

Know when people talk about their whole life flashing before their eyes ? That's basically what is happening everytime you wake up. One spin on the merry-go-round, make it a good 'un.
 
Coler said:
All I can say is...you're 20 years old...therefore an adult and accountable to yourself and those who love you and who you love, no one else.

Start acting like an adult - get out there (I don't know if that means moving out - up to yourself) and make a life for yourself...you're going to wake up one day and find out you're 30...and 40...and so on...as long as you make excuses for your situation, if you find it undesirable, it isn't going to change.

Know when people talk about their whole life flashing before their eyes ? That's basically what is happening everytime you wake up. One spin on the merry-go-round, make it a good 'un.
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So when can we wrap this thread up...?

NB4daLock?
 
Liz said:
Are you saying I'm attached to materialistic things? Not sure where you got that from. Not sure whether you were talking to me about abusive families either. But I will say that a grown woman being in an abusive relationship is nowhere near growing up from birth in an abusive and neglectful household. Why? Because you do 99% of your emotional and mental baseline development as a child, and when you are neglected as an infant, not ALLOWED to be held by anyone because you are "bad", and then as you mature you are beat every day and screamed at several times a day and thrown around the house, Plus you throw in genetic predispositions to severe mental illness (ie schizophrenia and psychotic bipolar) with a great-uncle that blew his brains out and other family members that did things too horrible to mention... you don't develop normally. To be honest, I spent 10 months in the state mental hospital. And without meds, I would never have been able to leave. And with meds, it's debateable how functional I am. And yes, I am confident my disability can be overcome. But in the meantime, SSI helps.

Now tell me I'm wrong again.
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My fiance grew up in a similar environment as yours. Physically and sexually abused from a very young age by her step-father while the rest of her family just stood by and allowed it to happen. This is something a person never truly recovers from but she dealt with it the best she could. After high school, she served in the Army (Airborne) for 10 yrs and put herself through college at the same time. I think that experience is what saved her mind, even though she still is emotionally damaged from it almost 20 yrs later. That is something you just never get over.
 
livebearerfreak said:
ok heres a LONG resume:
im not allowed to take showers everyday only once a week * grannys rules she hasnt tooken one in a month
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I cut out a bunch of this, since its pointless to copy it all. But I have to say I find a lot of this hard to believe, if your granny is so hard on you over showering, heaters for your fish tank etc then why is she fine with you to sit on the internet all day? If things were truly that bad then suck it up and take down, sell off your fish tanks to make some extra money, cancel anything that is not essential (internet connection, since there are internet cafes you could use to get online) and find some place to live. I don't know what rent is like in your area, but I am sure you can find something. Once you get back on your feet, then get a new fish tank.

You chose to drop out of school? but have not gotten a job? and don't tell me you can't find one. There are always jobs out there, you just have to accept that for now you might have to take a job that you don't like.

I am not even going to get into the whole addicted to cigarettes and who is paying for them, its been said already. I agree with Rallysmans advice on page 2.
 
well im waiting to hear back from the appts.

granny any my auntis telling me i wont get the appts cause i have my mom last name and i cant use my dads last name either cause wen they were younger they fought alot and broke some stuff in the same appt im applying for but i told them thats not me, what my mom did younger wont affect me cause im a totaly diff person then my mom is or my dad is. so basicly there saying is i cant get the appt cause of my mom and dad wen they lived there
 
Folks - I think we should abstain from criticizing the fellow so harshly. For those of you who actually read through all 20 pages (I have), you will read that this young fellow is dealing with a lot mentally and emotionally. The reasons as to why, we can only partially assume based upon his side of the story. However, with that said, he did say that fish keeping/having tanks was his main form of therapy to maintain his sanity.

The fellow's grandmother is not okay with him using a heater for his aquarium (he has said that he is using the heater secretly) and he is frequently banned from using his computer and internet, even despite the fact that he says he pays half the internet costs.

Basically, I'm not trying to defend the boy. But I also don't think we should bash, criticize-rebuke, and provide pessimistic feedback to someone who clearly is going through a lot of turmoil internally. As to the validity of his elaborate and unfortunate living conditions, as I said, we can only assume as much as we know. Wish him well, pray for him, send him positive energy, and try to be helpful with any advice.

Lastly, in regards to our tax dollars paying for his habits and lifestyle - Let me be quite frank; I'm not married yet and pay a whole lot of taxes. A lot of the tax dollars that are deducted from my paycheck are used for things I don't utilize nor agree with - I don't go to the public library, yet my taxes help pay for the library to be open. I would prefer our country not to be in war and would rather like our brave men and women home with their families then on foreign soil, fighting for democracy that might not be appreciated by foreign civilians. Yet at the end of the day, I understand and am at peace with the fact that most of our tax dollars are used for programs and causes that are of no use or not agreeable with myself as a individual. It's life and it's fact and even then, I'm still darn proud to be American. Basically, let's not gang up on this boy just because he smokes cigarettes on our tab. Sorry for the tirade. :)
 
Grow up, get some vocational training/education of some sort, stop smoking, get a job, acquire monies, move out...etc...lather, rinse and repeat.

I don't know how you sound in real life but you're grammar/spelling on here is atrocious. Nobody is going to take a job application that has spelling errors.

So, step one is to go to every store in your town and pick up an application for an entry level position. Make sure you're dressed well and showered up. Step two is to fill out those applications, have somebody check them over and make corrections as needed and then turn them back in. Follow up with each and every one after ten business days.

Seriously, the time you spend on here could be time spent searching for a job, writing a list of things you want to accomplish for the day and accomplishing them, reading a self help book, studying for your GED...something. You need to better yourself as a whole, moving out is just one aspect. Start with a job and a stable, honest income. If you can't get a job because of your education background then start with an education.

Whether you want to believe it or not you can control a lot of what is happening in your life. You have to WANT to change and then DO IT. Wanting is a waste if you don't act upon it.

Grab your life by the balls and straighten it out.
 
It could all be fiction to...from an over active imagination. If you are going to post topics like this on an open forum, there will be opposite points of view..it is what a forum is for.
 
just got an email back from the appt manager

Doug,
I have only 2 bedrooms open in Augusta right now at this time. I need to know how much you get from SSI to finish processing your application. As far as a co-signer goes depending on your credit and your rent to income will depend if you need a co-signer or not. As far as the fish tanks go I will have to ask my boss if you are allowed to have them you will only be allowed to have one. I also need personal references and credit references dnt have that so am i screwed? to complete your application.
Thank you,
Mandy
Property Manager

so am i most likly to get it?
 
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