being a housewife

[chefjamesscott]

hmmm...."Dear Abbey" = "internet".....untold experts with no proof of any qualifications...

:hitting:

Which is why I use my real name, show my real restaurant.

I am also a minister in real life, though for the sake of honouring the terms of agreement to be on this forum I have chosen to keep this aspect of who and what I am from posting for the most part on this forum, but, for the sake of response to this post I felt it necessary to add this detail of who and what I am.

For sure there is a point to be said for the fat guy in his basement syndrome which is very much part and parcel of what the internet is representative of, though, trust this there are more than a few people out there who are indeed what they say they are.

Yet does that mean the cynicism should take precendence over the fact that maybe just maybe some of the people on the internet are not here for games or costume wearing.

 

[Rbishop]

..and your point...?

 

[chefjamesscott]

..and your point...?

You desired to know of other posters credentials so I shared mine.

regardless of whether or not you are a mod here I will say what I am about to say

My point is that the pompus and arrogant nature you exude by talking smack about how people have offered counsel and advice to a person who has obviously posted this thread looking for such is worthy of this smiley
:bs:.

It is such a reproach on others humanity when they take this I could care less attitude about other people.

Whether you wish to see validity in what people have shared with blue is your perogative for such is the freedom of an open thread.

Yet on the same note, it is blue's perogative to see the validity of what people have shared with her. And one does not need to be a professional to offer wise counsel.

 

[Inka4040]

Why exactly does being a minister mean that your advice weighs more than others, is what I believe Bish is asking, and something I wholeheartedly agree with.

 

[dixienut]

you know some times one feels better talking (typing) to another in a similar position so that we feel like we are not alone,..
and it make us feel that our problems are not so big after all,.. and to those so called professionals,

tell me where they are at,.. i seen many and they could care less about us,. been thru many and all you are to them is a number and a ching in the pocket,..

all they talk about is divorce get job, move to projects and send kids off to where ever and nothing about counseling or help to deal with anything,.

the last one just stared at the clock and sent me out 10 ahead of time,. and she spent most of the time re going over paper work she did the last time so no time to help nor did she pay attention to what i said or asked,.. so i have found more help with people here on ac and other forums,.

some of us stay at home moms do have friends that are close by or want to be close to us for the way most men are , they isolate us for control purposes

 

[BreezeRuehls]

:OT::OT::OT::OT:

 

[THE V]

Why exactly does being a minister mean that your advice weighs more than others, is what I believe Bish is asking, and something I wholeheartedly agree with.

x 3 I agree with the question.

As discussing religion and politics is not allowed on this site I can't explain in detail my opinion of this. Let's just say it isn't positive.

the last one just stared at the clock and sent me out 10 ahead of time,. and she spent most of the time re going over paper work she did the last time so no time to help nor did she pay attention to what i said or asked,.. so i have found more help with people here on ac and other forums,.

Little detail about talking to professionals. You do a little talking then they give you things to do to help you. Then to gain any benefit from the process you need to go and do what they asked you to and report back on how it worked/failed. So they check their paperwork from the last time to see how anything has resolved. Kind of how the whole therapy thing works.

If you just want someone to vent to your nearest friend/neighbor is fine (as long as your not my neighbor). However you are generally just reinforcing negative patterns not really gaining any help.

Online forums are a great way to meet people like Bob who are not gentle with their advice.

BTW just so we are all clear.

In this context professionals = university educated (Ph.D. preferred) licensed individual not affiliated with any religious organization.

 

[DarrylR]

Wasn't there a tally that the job of a housewife equals to about 40+ jobs total and should receive a wealthy salary in itself.?

 

[FastFly67]

You desired to know of other posters credentials so I shared mine.

regardless of whether or not you are a mod here I will say what I am about to say

My point is that the pompus and arrogant nature you exude by talking smack about how people have offered counsel and advice to a person who has obviously posted this thread looking for such is worthy of this smiley
:bs:.

It is such a reproach on others humanity when they take this I could care less attitude about other people.

Whether you wish to see validity in what people have shared with blue is your perogative for such is the freedom of an open thread.

Yet on the same note, it is blue's perogative to see the validity of what people have shared with her. And one does not need to be a professional to offer wise counsel.

Rereading the original post, I don't see how she was asking for advice or counsel. It honestly sounded like a 'woe is me, i lead such a hard life' post. And if people don't want don't want to hear what others have to say, they shouldn't put their life on an internet forum. I'm sure there are many internet blogging sites that have a 'do not allow comments' button.

 

[NorthcoastGirl]

I would ask the ladies a ?

WOULD YOU WISH THAT YOUR BETTER HALF BE 100% OPEN ABOUT ALL THINGS BOTH THEIR WEAK AND THEIR STRONG POINTS? IN TURN WHAT DOES IT DO WHEN THEY DO NOT FEEL THEY CAN SHARE ALL THAT THEY ARE?[/QUOTE]


Oh, heck no!

I accept who my husband is 100%, but no, he is not required to SHARE who he is 100%. He's entitled to his own private thoughts, as I am.

Actually, when it comes to his job ( he's a social worker that works with children), he can't legally discuss most of the details with me or anybody else. He also needs a bit of his own time to decompress and unwind. Usually that involves spending a few hours down at the local cigar store with the rest of his terminally grouchy old fart cronies. Do I REALLY want all the details of those little pow-wows? Um.... no.