being a housewife

Inka4040 said:
Why exactly does being a minister mean that your advice weighs more than others, is what I believe Bish is asking, and something I wholeheartedly agree with.
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I have more than a couple times said one does not need to be a professional to offer good counsel have I not. Reread my posts in this thread if you missed that.

Hmmmm being a minister means regularly I am involved with trying to help out in family situations. I only shared my credentials to give mr bishop the professional angle I am coming from since he so chose to say we are all a bunch of dear abby's which in fact is not true.

I reiterate, those of you who wish to see no erstwhile value in the advice and counsel that has been offered to a person who posted a thread looking for it is your choice. On the very same note, the person posted this thread looking for advice and it is very much the choice of people who have offered counsel and advice to do so REGARDLESS of whether or not you guys seem to see any value in it.
 
One other point for those who have it in for professionals, I personally have yet to ever take a wage for what I do. That is why I am a business person as well.
 
just a simple statement, why is it everybody is having a fit IF ( by ones self opinion) some one feels like saying "woe is me"?

it is a human emotion that we all have every right to feel IF ( by ones self opinion) that is what we are doing,.. if you don't like to hear it, or hate that someone feels it, then click away from the post,.. no one has the right to tell others to suck it up,..

all turmoil runs its course, and some times other just need to hear a little support coming their way for a change,. not more overwhelming put downs,.

if your lives are perfect, bless you, but some times its not all your decision that your life is great, it could be just the way it is...

others have different lives and at times it isn't good and they get wore down and feel weak at times and need comfort where ever they can get it,.. from who ever you can get it from,.

thats all folks :silly:
 
i was not trying to start anything controversial. yes, i was in a way looking for advice. at the time i posted my original post i was just feeling horrible and lonely, ect. and i needed to talk to someone. i knew there were a lot of great people on this board as i've been coming here for quite some time and have gotten to know and recognize quite a few of you so this is where i came, as i really don't have anyone in my 'real' world to talk to. thanks to many of the caring members on this board i have gotten some great opinions and was shown other peoples perspectives on the situation. i have been given a lot of things to consider and seeing things through fresh eyes has been helpful, as well as finding people who were compassionate and understood what i am going through. As others have said, some of you have been plain rude. there is no need to attack people or cause issues because you aren't able to understand or have sympathy. like the old saying goes, 'if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.' Some have assumed things that were not right and made opinions of me based on that(like whomever said i should respect him for working all day to support me when i get a pension and babybonus, along with money from my wealthy parents and he brings in...well, 0..) but hey, it is what it is and i will not let that stress me out. i am very thankful to all the people who have replied and come back to this thread to defend me. i am feeling a bit better, it was a rough couple days. infact i think my other half read this thread because he seems to be going out of his way to be kinder to me suddenly, after months of trying to get him to open up and come around. i can only hope that the change will last and that things will improve. i have made some decisions based on my ideas and the new perspectives that i was given by thoughtful members here and i will continue to plug away at life, day by day, and try to do the best i can with what i have. so once again, thank you VERY much to those who helped for the support and for the rest of you, feel free to do and say what you want but if you aren't part of the solution you are part of a problem so keep that in mind.
 
Thanks for bringing it back on topic.

No marriage isn't easy and often seems to be a one-way street with the wife being on the short end. That doesn't make it any less frustrating to know the obvious so some venting usually helps. It doesn't matter too much who is right or wrong, it is how you felt at the time of posting. It is pretty difficult to find someone to trust enough to talk to and many people do just post it (mostly anonymously) online to get a brief respite from it.

If it helped you, then so be it. Good luck!
 
If I may inject my point of view, it all comes down to respect and caring of your spouse IMO.
When I see my wife having trouble with something or something is stressing her...whatever, I will try to fix the problem at hand, I don't even think about it it comes naturally. That is what you do when you care for someone... you care :)
No mutual respect=failure in my book.

Unless you can't stand the man try and let him know that the things that bother you need to be worked on. Maybe there are things that you can do to make things work too?
If you don't have a serious sit down and let the feelings out resentment will build to a boiling point! which it seems you are at or close to.
I hope the best for you, hang in there! good luck.
 
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