grannylvsfish, all you can do is talk to her while growing up and see that she understands that the most percentage with young boys is that when they reached a certain age is that their only concern is, who`s pants they will get into. Oh hell, I was no different in this, but that not gone on for far too long, for few boys do wise up in the ways of life, and are looking for something more then just a roll in between two (silk) sheets.
We need to give our trust that they will do the right thing, as my daughter had done. The weekend before getting married, we took a drive and she wanted to go a lone with me so that she could tell me something. She always known that she could tell me anything, no matter on what it was. But that day when we were going to go pick up her wedding dress, in which I had made for her. She begins to tell me that she wanted that I know that the man she was going to marry, was the only man she ever been with.
Now im sure, if this happened to you, you wouldn't had said anything different from myself. For I began to tell her that she is of age, that her private life is of her own and that no matter in what, if she been with hundreds or a few men or just one, that she would be careful not to mess up her major goal in life, to become a Orthodontist. Which one has to study hard for years and first go through regular dentistry studies.
So total trust is required with both of us with our grand kids, girls especially. For boys on the other hand, with make their minds up somewhere a long the way, the majority anyway. Already my granddaughter is a heartbreaker and is only now 5.5 years old with hair down to her waste.
Those with no kids, who have comment within the care to do with children, your remarks are what best to be known as, an outsiders opinion in which will have a total change of heart in your understandings to do with the care as far as children goes. That is once your children of your own.
The bottom line to my daughters saying about only being with just one man, has made me real proud of her in taking the proper responsibilities to their limits.
Buddy
PS. I wanted to add this story when my daghter was only 15 at the time:
Here is something that I will always remember. One night while my daughter was in her room studying, I heard her crying. I had to interrupted her studies then for which I felt that she required a talk. Her tears then were for that during while in high school, most the boys she tried going out on a date with, that after a cheese burger and movie, all they wanted was to hop in the back seat.
I'm sure grannylvsfish that if this happened with you, you have to come up with some clever means to what you tell her in response to that. Anyway, I asked her, now lets take this one step at a time. Now lets say that you meet this guy and he was everything wonderful, then the time came to when you get married with each other. Now everything is really great and then you start to have a few kids. Then lets say for shake of argument, that he turned out to be a "PUTZ".
I asked her, what then? What could you do about it? She said she would only been able to do is kiss his @
Then I began telling her, what would happen then if you follow through and complete your goal/desire to become a Orthodontist and he begins to behave like that, what can you do then? She said that she wouldn't need him then and could tell him where he could go.
She was thinking prior before my talk with her to only go for her dentist degree and not go all the way as she thought to do through the past years. It has put her back on the right track im happy to say. There was a woman in my life that told me that im aged to experience, beyond my own exportations as she put it.
they call, send notes, email her, DRIVES ME NUTS.
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