Oscars are seldom an aggressive fish if kept in an adequate environment, there are however a big powerful fish that will tolerate very little harrassment. I have never had a JD hurt an Oscar, and likewise I've never had an Oscar hurt a JD. I have had a few such combo's which I had to seperate, because they couldn't remember who's territory was who's, but even in those cases do lasting or cserious damage was done, and it seemed to be more of a personality thing than a characteristic of the breed. For the most part they get along fine if you don't cram 3 of them into a little tiny 55 or 75g tank. I'm not sure how aggression factor plays into this thread, but Oscars shouldn't have a lot of trouble defending themselves and living with a smallish arrowana. And once the get past the adolescent phase, they usually relax a bit anyhow.
IMO it really would require a monster tank for an arrowana and a pair of
Oscars. I'd be looking at something of several hundred gallons for that project. Arrowana's are awesome fish, but not an easy animal to keep even the smaller breeds get huge. a 33 inch fish and two 12 inch fish are going to need a lot of space.
dave