I need to vent, please (long).

Leopardess,

This all sounds so familiar, I've BTDT, and I think this type of situation happens many brides & grooms. One bit of advice: enjoy your day in the spotlight, and just let your parents and attendants take on any stress. If little things go wrong, remember that no one else will even notice. A little bit of rain on your wedding day is good luck. And you'll be on a wonderful honeymoon really soon. :)

mishi8
 
I going to echo what Beeker & Flyingfish said. If you can keep your head and your cool through this, it will truly build your character. It would probably look good on your resume! And also, it will pass, just hang in there.

My wedding was no picnic either. Not one of my freinds showed and because my dad paid for the hall, he insisted that the golf club organizer make all the choices. So much for my wifes special day.

Hang in there, it may still turn out to be a great day!
 
ugh, my best wishes out to you Leo, I can definitely relate with the one side negelectful, one side dutiful..... hang in there though sweetie, we're all pulling for ya and wishing our best for Chris and you.....
 
Hope you are feeling better, Leo-this too shall pass.
Families are wonderful sometimes, aren't they?
Makes you understand why some people go nuts!!
Hang in there!
 
Geez, Leopardess... I certainly hope everything will turn out fine. Just don't let them get to you on your wedding day. Trust me, you don't want to be getting upset. My MIL and SIL were fighting in my dressing room, arguing over who gets to use the mirror...Ummm... Me perhaps?

My dad told me a few weeks before the wedding that he didn't think I should marry my husband. He said he thought he'd be a good friend but a terrible husband. I know my mom felt the same way, but they both admitted, seven years later, that they were wrong.

If they start to upset you before the wedding, the best thing is to ask them to leave the room. It takes nerves, but it is your day. Yours and Chris'. Remember that.

Best of luck!
 
Its really too bad that its your parents causing most of the problems. My husband and I also pretty much paid for everything so we did not let anyone else have a say in the planning :D . Luckily, no one really had much to say about that. The wedding day will be great except for a few minor hitches that just have to happen to everyone :o (the bouquet I was supposed to toss never showed up, only to find it at the end of the night hidden behind the cake, a couple of our tables somehow had 12 people at them instead of 8 and the guests had to rearrange themselves, I kept pulling my head down and had a double chin in some of my pics :eek: ,...but luckily nothing major :D )
Just keep telling yourself that soon you will be on a wonderful honeymoon away from everyone and everything!!! By the way, the stuff you made for the wedding is beautiful!! I wish I was creative!!
 
Hey Lila, I think I have you beat :rolleyes: ... My dad told my husband that maybe he should not be marrying me (a few days before the wedding...) . It had more to do with the fact that my husband was very settled and wanted a family ASAP and I would still rather go out drinking with my friends, but still :huh: !!! My husband was good friends with my brother, and spent alot of time with my dad and they are pretty close. Still felt like a bit of an insult to me though :sad:. Unfortunately weddings seem to bring out the worst in people sometimes. I think it is their own jealousy and insecurity more than anything else
 
Yup, been there, done that. I feel for ya. My inlaws paid for a good portion of our wedding and used a wedding etiquite book by Emily Post. I can tell you this. If Emily Post wasnt dead already, I would have helped her along :mad2:

We had many of the same nightmares as you are having.

Can I offer a possible view from your parents side. I am getting the impression that they really do want to help but can not afford it. I am guessing that they are quite emberrased about this. I would be.

I hope things work out for you as I know they will in the end. :girl:
 
I don't know how close you are with your parents/sister, but I think just leaving them out to enjoy your day is kinda contradicting. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't be too happy not speaking to your parents on one of the most important days of your life.

like Dale said, it seems as though they aren't really in a situation where they can financially help you as best they could, and I guess they almost feel as though you're happier dealing with Chris' side of the family more than your own. That probably hurts them... I'm not justifiing what they're doing, and you even said that the money doesn't really matter to you, but your parents probably see it differently.

Why don't you try talking to them, not about the wedding... just to talk. you're probably pretty angry at them right now, but I'm sure you'd be happier if you were in good terms with your family. .


What they did wasn't very cool, but they probably have their own version of the story, and they probably don't think they're in the wrong.

I think family is really important. i just hope everything works out.

Good luck, and congratulations.. :)
 
The problem isn't the money so much (thank god for chris' parents) its that he repeatedly lied and won't admit he should have told me the truth. He said that he was going to have a friend use his camera (standard home camera, no experience) to take pictures if the day came and the photographer didn't show up! And he was never planning on telling me that.

And its the things that don't cost any money, too. The seating chart, being more involved with the shower, all sorts of stuff that I don't even have time to type out LOL. And now they aren't talking to me (so I surmise from their refusal to answer the phone) because they are mad at me....for asking if what they said would be done was done. I just don't get it.

Oh well.

The girls are coming over tonight for a little pic nic and I just made them all earrings and necklaces. I made one for my sister too, but I don't even know if she's coming. We'll find out!
 
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