insomniac.vivi
Someone cut off my eyelids!
Before my current girlfriend, I've had 4 failed relationships, all before I was 18. I'm always faithful (to answer the question way at the front of the thread, lol!) and never thought about cheating on my girlfriend.
The thing is, trust depends on mutuality. If you don't trust your boyfriend, why should he trust YOU? Remember that he has feelings too. Despite how some may feel, I love it when my girlfriend expresses her feelings. I don't want to be in the dark about how she feels about something, let alone about us.
My past girlfriends where during puberty, which would explain a lot of them and the reasons why they failed, which I'll mostly just touch on. Going in depth requires a large amount of brain power and being awake, both of which I'm not up to right now.
The basic thing is, before you decide to start dating a guy, make sure you know for SURE who he is, inside and out. Become friends first! Be foreward about things you don't like about certain guys. Be sure to tell him you don't like going out and getting drunk every weekend. (Don't just scream this the first time you see him- bring it up like "So what do you do on your days off/the weekend?")
Ask him about music. Sports. His family. You can ask a guy just about any question. The sort of information they are giving you is doubtfully incriminating, and is more of general knowledge about someone a friend would know, which is the status you will want to be shooting for in the first place.
If it gets to the point where you are really good friends and he hasn't asked you out, ASK HIM OUT. Don't promote the idiotic stereotype where the guy has to ask the girl out. Asking him will no doubt surprise him, but it will also show to him that you are willing to take this a litte farther. I can tell you that as a guy, it's equally stressful not knowing if the girl you have been building a relationship with is interested in you that way.
The thing is, trust depends on mutuality. If you don't trust your boyfriend, why should he trust YOU? Remember that he has feelings too. Despite how some may feel, I love it when my girlfriend expresses her feelings. I don't want to be in the dark about how she feels about something, let alone about us.
My past girlfriends where during puberty, which would explain a lot of them and the reasons why they failed, which I'll mostly just touch on. Going in depth requires a large amount of brain power and being awake, both of which I'm not up to right now.
The basic thing is, before you decide to start dating a guy, make sure you know for SURE who he is, inside and out. Become friends first! Be foreward about things you don't like about certain guys. Be sure to tell him you don't like going out and getting drunk every weekend. (Don't just scream this the first time you see him- bring it up like "So what do you do on your days off/the weekend?")
Ask him about music. Sports. His family. You can ask a guy just about any question. The sort of information they are giving you is doubtfully incriminating, and is more of general knowledge about someone a friend would know, which is the status you will want to be shooting for in the first place.
If it gets to the point where you are really good friends and he hasn't asked you out, ASK HIM OUT. Don't promote the idiotic stereotype where the guy has to ask the girl out. Asking him will no doubt surprise him, but it will also show to him that you are willing to take this a litte farther. I can tell you that as a guy, it's equally stressful not knowing if the girl you have been building a relationship with is interested in you that way.
