Really needs some advice :(

fish-n-chips said:
You definitely have to tell your father. Not only for the trust factor, but also for your brother. He is showing signs that he is on a path for future issues. It might start out as occasional binge drinking or sneaking a drink here or there, but it can quickly escalate to point of addiction. Speaking up now is a win win situation. Your brother might be ticked at you for a time but he will get over it. You owe it to yourself, your father and your brother also to say something sooner than later.

* This is coming from someone who has there own issues with drinking and looking back I wonder how things would be different had someone spoken up. It would have saved me a lot of trouble that I brought upon myself.
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While I have not had any addiction or substance abuse issues in my life, I would have to say that I agree that it sounds like your brother is on the wrong path and needs some help to get off of it and onto the right path instead. Please don't take this the wrong way but I think that your brother might have some serious problems and difficulties when it comes to making good decisions and controlling himself in these situations, and these problems could escalate if he does not get help with them before it is too late. I think that the best way to start to help him in this case would be to tell your dad and also stress that what your brother really needs is help and support to get on the right track in life.

I hope everything works out for you and your family.

Sorry for the double post.
 
Give your brother the opportunity to tell your father, himself. Let him know that if he doesn't own up, then you'll be forced to tell your father and it's something you'd really rather not have to do...nor should you. Your brother needs to step up.
 
Slappy*McFish said:
Give your brother the opportunity to tell your father, himself. Let him know that if he doesn't own up, then you'll be forced to tell your father and it's something you'd really rather not have to do...nor should you. Your brother needs to step up.
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I like this option.

You said it yourself that you don't trust your brother. I know the feeling. This gives him an opportunity to either confirm that you still can't trust him or prove that he's grown up a little. If I'm reading correctly, you've done everything you should have, the ball is in his court imo.
 
You need to let him know that he has to tell your dad he drank them or else you will. You don't wanna take the rap for your brother. Also time is crucial in this matter. If your father happens to secretly know already he will be waiting for someone to say something on there own. You don't wanna lose any trust you have with your dad. Trust gained and lost is harder to gain back the next time around.
 
well...you have to tell your father because if he finds out and he know that you know it before and didint tell him its gonna be angry at you...be the role model for your brother..
 
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