Having once sneaked a wine cooler to drink in my buddy's camper, it sounds like we could be long-lost twins. :grinno:
Really needs some advice :(
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Having once sneaked a wine cooler to drink in my buddy's camper, it sounds like we could be long-lost twins. :grinno:
Sometimes you have to cut them loose to make them figure it out. You're not the parent here, and your little brother is old enough to take responsibility on his own. If he really has a problem, rat him out. If he's just a teen being a teen, give him a break.
Sorry, normally I would say don't rat out a sibling (as a sibling, as a parent TELL ON EM)...anyway I think the above is an important part to think about before giving advice for her to say nothing. Why should she take the chance (most likely he will find out), she is wanting to "better herself", the brother has put her in a very bad position, he didn't think about what would happen to her, only thought about himself. Now, I agree the airplane bottles really aren't that big a deal, but looking at the whole story..unless he is willing to take responsibility for what he did I don't think what she would lose would be worth it. Only alternative I could see is MAYBE act like you didn't know and be "surprised" when your Dad wants to recount them? I hate giving that kind of advice though, I know myself I am HORRIBLE at lying to a persons face, so this wouldn't work for me and it kinda would go against your integrity.
Either way, Bally shouldn't take the blame for it. I was addicted to painkillers that I stole from my parents a while ago... But I got help and turned my life around.
dunno... still think this is her cross to bare. sometimes... in families... there's several avenues of information. when they cross path's it could be just like aiming 2 major highways head on into each other. most family members know what avenue takes you where, but sometimes... just sometimes there's that dark, long road that looks like it's the path to freedom. if he's that bad... and dad's that strict... he'll hang himself. if not... this is likely (the bottles) something that will blow over quickly. worth taking a little slack on this one, maybe... i dunno. only you know. you may just find out later if you don't nit pick on every little thing that you may be the pinnacle of his recovery from whatever. you could find out later, somehow that by not telling on him, you've left a door open and something tragic has happened. it happened to me recently... or maybe, just like the rest of the family, i'm holding some guilt for not seeing it coming, i dunno. (short story... my avatar... my 22 yr old brother... just over a week ago, maybe 2... time's a bit fuzzy right now)
good luck, bally. dealing with family can be tough sometimes.
good luck, bally. dealing with family can be tough sometimes.
I would talk to my brother and tell him I love him, but that he will have to tell Dad what he has done and that if he doesn't do that by a set time then I will. I give him a day or two to go to Dad and 'fess up, and if not then I'd talk to Dad about it.
I'm 21 but it is a matter of his house his rules. He bought my car, he pays for my phone, he provides the internet for the house etc....
Plus I am an adult and it is my choice to live at home, I don't have to be there and he doesn't have to provide my "wants". Because I choose to live in his house I'm choosing to live by his rules.
So I talked to my brother about it and told him that there are 4 missing and that I was going tell dad before I left and he had until then, about 18 hrs, to tell himself. I explained that I would get in trouble if I didn't 'say something to dad and I gave him his chance to fess up. His exact words were "it's not my problem if you get in trouble. If I tell dad I took them I wont be able to see Brittany ( his gf ) and thats more important to me than anything" I just said OK and let the 18 hrs run out. He never told himself so I had to. I told dad that there were 4 bottles missing and I hadn't drank them, he confronted my brother who lied to his face and said that he didn't even know I had any. My parents searched his room and found the missing bottles empty under his mattress and more paraphernalia. He changed his story and tried to tell my dad that I said he could have them when he picked me up from the bar on my 21st. Dad started to yell at me, then I told him that it was my 21st and I was no where near sober enough to grant that kind of permission, that my brother knowingly took advantage of the situation to "ask" that kind of thing. My dad backed off on yelling at me and then let my brother have it. When it was all said and done dad told me that he knew some were missing but was waiting for me to find out and he wanted to see if I'd tell him or not.... so all and all I passed his test.
