being a housewife

bluekrissyspike

bluekrissyspike

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being a housewife is tiring. it is a thankless job that never ends. i am soooo tired. i get up at 5 with one kid and another stays up late. the baby wakes me up all night because he's breastfeeding still. i work from the time i get up till i go to bed and i still don't have time to get everything done that needs to get done. no one appreciates it either. i have no friends because i have been a stay at home mom since i moved to this town and the one friend i did have here doesn't come over anymore because she can't stand the screaming and crying from my autistic step-son. i need a vacation. my other half is practically useless and things i ask him to do just sit there until i get around to doing them(and yes i give him LOTS of time) but he still thinks it's okay to try to make me feel guilty because i CAN'T do everything. when he does do stuff to help he does it halfway or refuses to follow the directions and ends up screwing it up. the kids are not perfect, they are kids and if they cry or have accidents it's always my fault somehow, i should have been doing something better. i try to make life fun for them and i get crapped on for letting them be too noisy or hyper. i am sooo frustrated and soooo fed up. i am tearing down most of my tanks this week because i don't have time to maintain them properly anymore. that was the only thing i had that was for myself. i want to leave, in a way since we don't get along much anymore. he seems like he hates me and doesn't care about anything i do. he won't talk to me either. if i try to leave, i'll lose everything, and i have no where to go. all my baby bonus(yes, in canada you get payed to be a mom) comes in his name. i don't know why i ever agreed to put it in his name. he was sooo nice back then. i wonder if it would be better to just grab my two little ones and go, but then i'd have to seperate the kids and that would be horrible. plus i really don't want to lose all my stuff. most of it my parents got to make my life easier, the laundry set, dishwasher, stuff like that. i don't know. maybe i don't have the balls to leave and give up everything i guess, even if HE is making live miserable for everyone here. i just feel like it would be a big releif to be without him because i feel like i am under his microscope all day being picked at.
 
eh, motherhood.

Are you entitled to Respite time due to your autistic stepson? I'm not sure what it's like in Canada, but we do have respite in the States. I'd check it out, like soon, girl, before we see you in the news. Hang in there
 
NorthcoastGirl said:
eh, motherhood.

Are you entitled to Respite time due to your autistic stepson? I'm not sure what it's like in Canada, but we do have respite in the States. I'd check it out, like soon, girl, before we see you in the news. Hang in there
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yes, respite will be nice when it comes through. we have been going through the process of getting some for a while now. we have a long waiting list here. don't worry, i won't go balistic. i would leave before i did anything that would require me to be on the news.
 
You should have your husband read your post.
 
i think you sound a bit overwhelmed. How old is your youngest? have you talked to your OB about how you are feeling?

I can totally relate, I felt much the same way after my middle child was born. Keep your chin up, talk to you doctor, talk to your spouse, see if you can figure out a way to share responsibility a bit better.

It will get better.
 
thanks guys. i knew there would be people who understood. i'm not sure what to do next. i just want things to get better. i will call my ob, ms.j and see if she can help. the youngest one is just over a year old. the others are 3, 5(almost 6) and 11.
 
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Definitely talk to your doctor. A few of the things in your post are absolute signs of a medical related issue. Don't wait even a day. Go in and tell your doctor what you said in that post tomorrow.
 
Might want to think about marriage counseling. Ask your old man to go and if/when he doesn't, it can still benefit you.
Just bill it to your do-nothing husband :)
 
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