I think that's an unfair comment. but to each his own. It works both ways. . Both the man and the woman have to consider eachother. Not talking about this situation specifically, but there are many situations where the woman is unwilling to take the man's perspective into account. Only problem is we hardly ever hear about them because a "man" usually keeps it to himself.
To say most times the root of the problem is a man... is harsh. . . well, I think so anyways.
Cheech is it an unfair comment.
It is only recently that women were granted power to vote, were considered more than stay at home barefoot and pregnant.
Even to this day there are cultures where women are seen and treated as but objects.
I will not derail this thread by speaking of my own life.
Yet I am pretty sure that if blue were here she might be able to confirm this. I am pretty sure that early on in their relationship he man hid some or much of what who he really was. Putting on a show so as to obtain the prize as it were.
How many men fail to realize that the physical side is only one aspect of marriage, one's brains must not only be in their pants. what of the time when that part of the game is not afoot, what of the time when a more cereberal activity is needed.:hypnotized:
I am sorry if this truth about most issues coming from the male part seems harsh, but true reality is indeed most often harsh. The harsh truth is that many men have bought into a societal image of what a man is MACHISMO AND EGO!!!! 2 very dangerous substances which are the base ingredients of that which will eventually cause destruction of any relationship. Any dude whos sole desire in a female counterpart is to have something to control, to have someone to stroke his ego is in trouble. For an ego will eventually inflate to arrogance and arrogant literally translates to mean peircing leaness.
My approach to being a husband and father is very different but that is because of the examples I received growing up. I will not go into detail and derail this thread. I simply wish to say that many many many issues are caused in marriage by the dudes total misconception of what a real man is. REAL MEN ARE NOT AFRAID TO WEAR THEIR HEARTS ON THEIR SLEEVES. REAL MEN UNDERSTAND THAT ABSOLUTE TRANSPARENCY IS THE ONLY WAY TO GO.
I personally refuse to repeat the sins of my father and my step father.
I now have 9 good reasons for this. The first wears the match to my ring and the other 8 range in age from 13 to 3 mths.
If you can share the bed why can you not share the heart and soul. I would certainly lay money down that what a woman really wants is the complete package both physical and mental.
I am sure that if men took this approach from the get go and completely maintained as the only way they would find problems with their female better half would never arise.
Take my wife and I, there have been a few shall we say offers that have come my way and I make sure my wife knows of them when they happen. NO SECRETS EVER. All I have to do is look on my left hand and there is a ring I commissioned a custom design to which there is only one ring that is it's match. My wife even walked up with me being unawares as one of these things was proceeding to happen. I was doing my best to tell these ladies to go away. And up comes my wife with my then 3 day old son caleb (now 5) and when I told her about the happenings she just smiled and said I saw the whole thing. Then she turned and gave the ladies the greatest smile :rofl:.
I can pretty much say with assurance that any relationship that is based on such open communication will not only last but will thrive and succeed in ways beyond that couples biggest dreams.(as I type this my daughter josepha reads over my shoulder like I said no secrets, she is now sitting beside me eating soup..
When my daughter gets old enough that she finds her special guy, I full well intend her to be capable of seeing through bs and pretense :rofl:.
Blue I really hope things are getting better for you, sorry for the long response and hope it did not derail your thread at all.
Hey, after I pop this one out, you should come down here and we can get trashed and mosh till we feel like real people again, not just the dishwasher.
