My dad's tank of death

Yup, you said all that stuff already. Kind of a leap from nagging a dad over a fish tank to getting tossed out on the street!

The OP might be a precocious 14 year old...in which case it would be illegal to toss her out on the street.

Anyhow, you've made your point.
 
Sorry i changed it to "she" i was informed "He" wasnt correct lol..anyways i hope the best for botn partys and there fish ..
 
Hey capt. =)

I have a similar situation with my stepdad and his 5 inch long shubunkin goldfish he keeps in a 55 gallon tank with a slightly smaller common goldie. I've been trying to coax him into getting a bigger tank for them, but he's not having any of it. Now, every time I go over (about once a week), I test the water and do a water change without even asking, lol. He gets a little miffed, then shrugs his shoulders and gets over it. Would that work with your dad? It sounds like he really doesn't care that much about the tank or it's tenants... do you think he would get angry if you just went and did the water changes without sneaking? I mean, hey... you're the one doing the work, not him.

Good luck with that situation, though. That would drive me nuts, as well. Why even bother having any animals if you don't care about their well-being? Makes no sense.
 
That would drive me nuts, as well. Why even bother having any animals if you don't care about their well-being? Makes no sense.
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I ask myself this all the time. It's sad that animals can be so dispensable to people.

He told me that he doesn't want me doing water changes so I can't do it with him knowing. I don't think he'd accept a larger filter. I even offered him some better filter media, of course for free, and he turned me down.

Right now, he has a gouriami (my mistake, not a paradise fish, that one died), a tiger barb, two 2"ish fish that I can't id, a platy, two bala sharks, two corys (not pgymy), a giant danio, and a Pimelodus blochii that he actually said that I can rehome and I'm searching for a home for. I think he may have a fish or two hiding that I couldn't see, or maybe they died.
 
awww, jeez. That's so odd... your dad sounds pretty stubborn and like a guy that wants to maintain control of his "stuff" regardless of the consequences! I have to ask.. if he gets lost- does he ask for directions or consult a map/gps, or does he drive around aimlessly? ;)
 
Sometimes you just have to let things be. You can't be in control of everything, only what is within your own care. Even though your father's tank bothers you to no end, you've tried as hard as you could to better the lives of the fish. Not much else you can do beyond that.

Take pride in yourself that you know how and do care for your own fish properly.


BTW, I don't live there, but my own mother has 4 common goldfish and 4 cories in a 29gal with a UGF. Her Nitrates were through the roof a few months back when I tested. She's done only one water change since then and that was a few weeks ago. I tell her all the time that those goldies need a pond but she sticks by the old "fish don't outgrow their tank." I don't push it real hard though since I love my mom and don't want to burn any bridges. I just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one who sees these sorts of things and can't change it.
 
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Taysius said:
Sometimes you just have to let things be. You can't be in control of everything, only what is within your own care. Even though your father's tank bothers you to no end, you've tried as hard as you could to better the lives of the fish. Not much else you can do beyond that.

Take pride in yourself that you know how and do care for your own fish properly.
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Taysius said:
Sometimes you just have to let things be. You can't be in control of everything, only what is within your own care. Even though your father's tank bothers you to no end, you've tried as hard as you could to better the lives of the fish. Not much else you can do beyond that.
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Try showing him this thread to see what he says about it.
 
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