In reading this thread I've realized that everything my parents did for me when I was younger and I "hated" them for was a good thing.
Did my patents buy me things? Yes, when we needed them. Clothes at the beginning of the school year. Did they buy us frivolous things because we wanted them? Nope. We could do a set list of chores for a few dollars. I don't mean like dusting....for example the kitchen list 10$. Clean the cabinets: insides were washed, reorganized and the outsides cleaned with Murphy's oil soap. Fridge was emptied, food organized, fridge was bleached and put back together, same with the freezer. The floor was scrubbed on your hands and knees with bleach and a toothbrush for the grout. Plus all the normal kitchen cleaning things We have a large kitchen, this list easily took 4 hours.
I got my first job at 14, I worked about 40 hrs a week in the kitchen of a restaurant and rode my bike there. I put half my check in the bank and had about 2000$ by the end of that summer. My parents didn't allow us to work during school, because our grades were our jobs.
As the oldest child of 7 I had a lot of responsibilities growing up. There were many days that the kids were my responsibility to give my mom a break. That woman is my hero she went to school full time, maintained a 4.0GPA, worked full time and raised 7 kids and a husband. If she could do all that then why can't I.
I do still live at home, but I work and go to school full time. My parents do not charge me rent, but I pull my weight around this house. I only go out on weekends, I nanny my little sister daily, and keep up with laundry( not an easy task! 10 loads a day or we fall behind), clean house, and help the little kids.
Could my parents have given me everything I wanted? Yes, my father is high in management at a Ford plant, manager of the entire material handling plant, and my mother is an ICU nurse. They both make in the 6 digits, but never once spoiled us. I couldn't be more thankful.
When I was younger I hated not having the designer clothes and a brand new car. But you know what, those kids that had everything handed to them lives are slowly falling apart.
I work my butt off, but in the end I will enjoy it. Hard work pays off in the end, but sitting back and waiting for life to find you is a train that will never come.
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