The should haves...
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OgreMkV
Father of Earth's Next Emperor
I'm so sorry JMax, but if you dwell on the should have beens, then you might not remember the things you did have.
I am so sorry for your pain. I lost my mom a few years back. It is so hard to lose a loved one but with time it will get easier...Remember all of the good times and good things about your Gram. She will also take those wonderful memories with her.
God bless.
God bless.
Dangerdoll
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Oh gosh, Julez! It's tough to hear this but it's beautifully written. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your famiky through this, know that you can always call on me too if not just to scream at. And remember, you will never get over this but you will learn to live with it...it's a hard road and we have your back, sweetie.
Being someone who has lost all my grandparents, my father, and step father, I can just speak of experience...
I am sure your gram knows without a doubt that you love her, and that is all that matters. Unfortunately she might not even be aware of what is happening and the fact that you are not in the room.
I watched my dad ( actually my step-dad) take his last breath and die, and it ws the hardest thing I have ever endured in my life. I wish over and over that I was not in the room when he died. Its been 14 years since he passed and it still brings me to tears to think about that day. I never really told him I loved him, until I was standing at the grave, but he knew I did, and that's what matters...
Greiving is different for everyone, you have to take it day by day and eventually things get better, both the good memories and the bad are all that remain and we all have to deal with those in our own way.
My grandma never cried when my grandpa died, they were married for 47 years...
I locked myself in a closet and cried for hours when my dad died...
Watching someone pass is never an easy thing, my grandpa had cancer and slowly withered away, we were almost releived when he passed away. but knowing he is in a better place, and no longer suffering helps take away some of the pain...
the memories are all that remain...
day by day... things will get better.
Dont be afraid to cry. even if you have to hide in the closet to do it.
My thoughts are with you...
I am sure your gram knows without a doubt that you love her, and that is all that matters. Unfortunately she might not even be aware of what is happening and the fact that you are not in the room.
I watched my dad ( actually my step-dad) take his last breath and die, and it ws the hardest thing I have ever endured in my life. I wish over and over that I was not in the room when he died. Its been 14 years since he passed and it still brings me to tears to think about that day. I never really told him I loved him, until I was standing at the grave, but he knew I did, and that's what matters...
Greiving is different for everyone, you have to take it day by day and eventually things get better, both the good memories and the bad are all that remain and we all have to deal with those in our own way.
My grandma never cried when my grandpa died, they were married for 47 years...
I locked myself in a closet and cried for hours when my dad died...
Watching someone pass is never an easy thing, my grandpa had cancer and slowly withered away, we were almost releived when he passed away. but knowing he is in a better place, and no longer suffering helps take away some of the pain...
the memories are all that remain...
day by day... things will get better.
Dont be afraid to cry. even if you have to hide in the closet to do it.
My thoughts are with you...
I can't express how much all of your kind words mean to me.
Its hard to know that she is going. I guess I just assumed she would always be there. She has survived so much. Its hard to know that she won't be there to share the stories of the depression, Of ccc camps, and nickel loaves of bread, To share the "secrets" of her cooking, And all the other things she shared with me, with my children.
Its hard to physically talk about it. I choke up. This is so much easier. I again, truly appreciate you all lending me your ears.
She is doing well, She is not laboring to breath, although she is still unresponsive, she just looks as if she is sleeping.
I think, I am holding hope, that maybe being in a coma is restful, and helping her body save energy to fight the infection. I know this is a dangerous area of thought, Since her living will dictates no resuscitative measures. She feels she has lived a full life. This I think, is sometimes the hardest thing for me to accept. Although, I understand her wishes, From the greedy standpoint of a "loved one left behind" I want them to do everything possible to Keep her here.
Again, thank you all. Its much easier to cry in front of a screen, then in front of another person.
Its hard to know that she is going. I guess I just assumed she would always be there. She has survived so much. Its hard to know that she won't be there to share the stories of the depression, Of ccc camps, and nickel loaves of bread, To share the "secrets" of her cooking, And all the other things she shared with me, with my children.
Its hard to physically talk about it. I choke up. This is so much easier. I again, truly appreciate you all lending me your ears.
She is doing well, She is not laboring to breath, although she is still unresponsive, she just looks as if she is sleeping.
I think, I am holding hope, that maybe being in a coma is restful, and helping her body save energy to fight the infection. I know this is a dangerous area of thought, Since her living will dictates no resuscitative measures. She feels she has lived a full life. This I think, is sometimes the hardest thing for me to accept. Although, I understand her wishes, From the greedy standpoint of a "loved one left behind" I want them to do everything possible to Keep her here.
Again, thank you all. Its much easier to cry in front of a screen, then in front of another person.
Oh julz, I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Just stay strong, we all know you will make it through.
Oh Judgemax I so feel for you honey,my thoughts and prayers are with you.I was so young when I lost my Grandparents and my Father that it did not greatly affect me but when I lost my Mom I thought I was going to die.I worked for her for over 20 years and was with her 6 days a week,9 and 10 hours a day,she not only was my Mom but my best friend.She developed breast cancer and was a stage 4 already and only lasted 5 months at the age of 61.It has been 15 years since she left us and I can still set and have a good cry.But most of the time now when I think of her it is the fun times and what she gave me in life and what a wonderful strong woman she was.It does get easier with time to get past the pain and remember the good stuff.If you get in to see her tell her how much you love her and what she has meant to you, I always have believed that even tho they are not able to respond back with you they can hear every thing you say.Again know you have a lot of people thinking of you and yours.
